The Bull & The Bully

October is anti-bullying month. A classification that certainly implies bullying is of concern. Is it? Is bullying a dynamic issue? Unfortunately, YES! Is it limited to pushing someone into a fight? NO! What about age? UNLIMITED! Where does bullying occur? EVERYWHERE!

A young hoodlum revels in making the lives of others truly miserable. Why? What lies at the core of a bully? Insecurity, anger, frustration, abuse, wannabe, cowardice, just plain meanness? None of these, all of these? There are a plethora of possibilities BUT none excusable.

Much like the bull with its animal instinctive behavior to be aggressive, such lies the nature of the bully. The bull is lean, muscular and supremely strong. Just the sight of him can be intimidating. The bully is often overpowering in speech and physical appearance, especially in the eyes of his/her victim. A major difference, however, is the bull is usually intimidated to the point of provoking a fight whereas the bully is the one picking the fight.

The bull is strong

not easy to tame

About the bully

can't we say the same?

With October being anti-bullying month, let's take a moment to look at the who, what, when, where, why of the bully...

WHO is the bully?
The intimidator, the overbearing, the aggressor, the unwelcomed, the hassler, the abuser, the jealous

WHAT is the bully?
Negative, negative, negative – negative attitudes, negative thoughts, negative beliefs, negative feelings, noticeable rejection and isolation

WHEN does the bully strike?
Any hour, minute, second of the day or night...there is no sacred hour!

WHERE does bullying take place?
At home, at school, on the playground, at work, at the mall, on land, at sea, in the air, in the military, over the Internet, on a cell phone ... literally anywhere!

WHY does the bully bully? 
Social issues, jealously, envy, lack of social/personal skills, attention, get what one wants, lack of discipline, punitive atmospheres, lack of family ties

Another unfortunate factor about bullying is the fact it is not limited to just one type. There is a wide range of ways in which bullying occurs: physical or psychological; verbal or emotional; blatantly or subtly; singling someone out or leaving someone out. It is intentional, hurtful, threatening usually within a power imbalance.

The aggressiveness of the bull

makes it difficult to control
The hostility of the bully
spins him out of control

With October being anti-bullying month, what can be done to simmer the bully and/or prevent further abuse?

How to Stop Bullying: Deal with Bullying Behaviors when Children are Still Young - See more at: http://cherryevasquez.tateauthor.com/uncategorized/how-to-stop-bullying-deal-with-bullying-behaviors-when-children-are-still-young/#sthash.6spws7Jj.dpuf

There is no pat answer, no switch to turn the bully off, no magic eraser. There are avenues of intervention to hopefully make bullying less in the present, more a thing of the past. Today, you are invited to join Cherrye S. Vasquez, Ph.D. Cherrye is an avid proponent of anti-bullying. Her many articles, interviews and books focus on diversity, character and effective communication. She is a very highly qualified professional.

Author Cherrye Vasquez is a public school administrator and an adjunct professor. She is a Doctor of Philosophy in Curriculum & Instruction; a Master of Education in Special Education; and a Bachelor of Arts in Speech Pathology/Audiology. . Vasquez specializes in Multi-cultural education and holds certifications in Early Childhood Handicapped, Mid-Management and Educational Diagnostician. . She lives in Houston with her husband, Roy and her daughter, Kelly. . - See more at: http://cherryevasquez.tateauthor.com/about-the-author/#sthash.oRtJWXWB.dpufAuthor Cherrye Vasquez is a public school administrator and an adjunct professor. Among her accolades are many accomplishments, including Doctor of Philosophy in Curriculum & Instruction, Master of Education in Special Education, and Bachelor of Arts in Speech Pathology/Audiology.

[Learn more about Cherrye @ http://cherryevasquez.tateauthor.com/about-the-author/#sthash.oRtJWXWB.dpuf]

Author Cherrye Vasquez is a public school administrator and an adjunct professor. She is a Doctor of Philosophy in Curriculum & Instruction; a Master of Education in Special Education; and a Bachelor of Arts in Speech Pathology/Audiology. . Vasquez specializes in Multi-cultural education and holds certifications in Early Childhood Handicapped, Mid-Management and Educational Diagnostician. . She lives in Houston with her husband, Roy and her daughter, Kelly. . - See more at: http://cherryevasquez.tateauthor.com/about-the-author/#sthash.oRtJWXWB.dpuf

Author Cherrye Vasquez is a public school administrator and an adjunct professor. She is a Doctor of Philosophy in Curriculum & Instruction; a Master of Education in Special Education; and a Bachelor of Arts in Speech Pathology/Audiology. . Vasquez specializes in Multi-cultural education and holds certifications in Early Childhood Handicapped, Mid-Management and Educational Diagnostician. . She lives in Houston with her husband, Roy and her daughter, Kelly. . - See more at: http://cherryevasquez.tateauthor.com/about-the-author/#sthash.oRtJWXWB.dpuf

How to Stop Bullying: Deal with Bullying Behaviors when Children are Still Young - See more at: http://cherryevasquez.tateauthor.com/uncategorized/how-to-stop-bullying-deal-with-bullying-behaviors-when-children-are-still-young/#sthash.6spws7Jj.dpu 

Cherrye shares two powerful video poems that provide insight into the bully-ee and the child bully. If the videos do not appear, click HERE!

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It is a must that we help both children, the bully-ee (the victim), and the bully (the perpetrator). There are far too many factors and variables at stake. - See more at: http://cherryevasquez.tateauthor.com/#sthash.EJ93F6gJ.dpuf

"It is a must that we help both children, the bully-ee (the victim), and the bully (the perpetrator). There are far too many factors and variables at stake."

- Cherrye Vasquez, Ph.D